Election day has come and gone and we now have a new president elect. Although it's my candidate that won, I honestly feel that the entire country has won. Give it some time and you'll see.
I am sad that I also lost. I have lots of friends and family that didn't vote the way I did and 99% of them are still near and dear to me and I to them, including both my brothers, a sister-in-law, nieces and nephews. Our family is quite divided, as a number of them did vote the same as I. However, one friendship appears to be a casualty of this election.
This friend posted her blogs stating her opinion and I had the audacity to comment on them. When she pointed out that her blogs were not a venue for discussion or debate I stopped commenting. Sharing my opinion was my bad.
But I do have a political opinion and continued to share it for anyone who wanted to drop by and see it. I also have lots of blogs that aren't political. My Halloween videos, my hari-kari bird blog, my discovery that my Mom could be cured of her dementia, my pet peeves…. I also posted a-politcal blogs, my please vote blog, my color purple blog, my dancing candidates blog… I have to comment on the video blog of the woman who gave candy only to McCain supporters here. The mention of that segment came from a liberal program and to their credit, they didn't even reveal which candidate this woman supported. Their take was that it was appalling that she even did what she did. If I could have taken the candidate out of that video I would have too. The point was that it was disgusting that someone would use trick or treating by children as a political platform for either party.
I digress. In trying to apologize to this friend for sharing my opinion (inappropriately apparently), I managed to somehow open my mouth and stick my foot in even farther. Apparently I passed the ankle, knee, and thigh and am in up to my hip. I don't know. I responded to her privately and publicly trying to clear up our misunderstanding, my bad behavior, just to be told again that I have judged her and unwarrantedly attacked her character. I really wanted to know what I said, how I did these things and asked for examples. I knew one of the issues was a comment on how hard her life has been in recent years. I tried to explain how the comment was intended and further request clarifications of my other sins, attacks and judgments. This request has gone unanswered.
I noticed recently that she no longer subscribes to my blogs. I totally expect the next step will be my deletion from her friends list. I wonder how over ten years of friendship can come to this? I've always accepted her as she is for who she is, especially through the recent very rough times.
It's extremely sad to me that a difference of opinion can lead to the destruction of something that once was so precious. I think our country is the grand winner after this election, but in another way, I am the loser.
Update:
I always appreciate the comments and responses I get on my blogs, however, in this case I am removing the comments and closing the response line. It's not intended to offend or censor anyone. If you feel like commenting, please message me personally.
By the responses I've received, I feel like I've drawn a line in the sand and people are choosing sides. I guess that's not really even possible since I doubt anyone is aware of the friendship involved. But the response is making me feel uncomfortable, as if a judgement is being placed on this other person. That was not my intention. I am sure I am as much responsible for this loss as anyone. I hope you understand.
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